Own it: Step into Your Role as Matriarch
I love mothers. What we do is amazing. Think about that. We are intricately involved in the growth of human beings! We love them, clothe them, guide them. We feed and water them and yell at them, ha. We socialize them. We help them become responsible, caring adults.
As the mom, you are the emotional epicenter. You are the hub, bringing everything—and everyone—together in your family. I don’t know if you’ve ever thought at this, but YOU are the matriarch.
The MATRIARCH!
I love that term. So much. As the matriarch, I want to lead with grace, love, energy, confidence, joy. I want to a place of welcome for all of my kids and everyone they bring into our family, accepting, accepting, accepting.
As the matriarch, I really want to show up and be engaged; I want mental clarity; I want to be energized. I know what it takes; for the past seven years I have been eating whole foods and I started lifting heavy weights over a year ago. I am now 58 years old, and I feel alive, so much so that I know I need to share this gift with other moms because I love mothers! How we show up matters!
I want to be a matriarch that shows up on purpose and who can LOVE. That is my whole thing—I want to love and I want to love well.
In the fall of 2024 when I decided that I wanted to do this wellness thing for the rest of my life, I was led to The FASTer Way to Fat Loss. I wanted to take time and explain a little more about their specific program in this space.
So in my last post, I shared how I made a formal proclamation in 2018 or so, declaring that I was not going to ever go on a diet anymore. I knew I was done with diet culture, and I knew how I wanted to truly live. See, before 2018, I would start with “the plan,” where I would learn a new technique of some sort, which revolved around food and food choices. I would set out to eat clean and become a better person, transformed by this new way. Then I would get to the VISTA, the new PLACE one way or another and turns out, I was the same person with the same issues. There was no magic fairy dust transforming me into the person I truly wanted to be. And I would just wilt back into my old ways.
All of that changed once I truly understood my deepest identity, so that’s where I ALWAYS start. Hear me. I’m not trying to get to some magical place where Lori is a new creation; I know I AM a new creation…that is my starting point.
It’s yours, too. As a baptized believer, you ARE a new creation. It’s so exciting. You have been transferred into the Kingdom of the Beloved Son. You are whole. You are holy. You are worthy. You are beautiful. Now.
I love that so much. I could meditate on that for hours…
And the other part of my core identity is this: I am someone that eats whole foods. A whole food is not processed, does not have added junk. Am I perfect in this arena? No, but I am getting there; by and large, I eat whole foods each and every day. I love my food. I LOVE MY FOOD. So that is also part of my most inner identity; I am someone who eats foods that not only taste fabulous, but that make me feel fabulous. (Sometimes I wish I could go back to my younger self and teach her what I know now!)
So when I start there, that I am a beloved daughter AND I eat foods that nourish me, plus implementing and synchronizing the steps from The FASTer Way, then I show up how I want to be as a matriarch: energized, confident, strong.
If you’ve known me for any length of time, you know that I am a deep thinker, and I’ve been pondering this role of matriarch for a bit. As mothers, we are the emotional hub in our home; if I want to have a ministry for moms—and I do, I feel like that is the call of God on my life, then it has to be right here, in this realm.
Therefore, I wanted to intentionally invite you into my next round with The FASTer Way to Fat Loss, which will begin on April 28, 2025. The cool thing is, we are four weeks from that start date, but you can come in early and start learning and growing (and take advantage of the workouts) before our official start date. That is what I did when I started; I had three weeks to play around and learn before everything began in earnest.
So if you are ready to become a stronger, more confident and energized matriarch, come, come. Here’s the link. *Note: I know this will continue to grow and grow, so I am putting a cap on the size of my groups because I desire the training to remain personalized. It’s about us walking together.
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If you would like more info or want to just talk through your thoughts, email me at loridoerneman@gmail.com
If you are thinking to yourself, “Lori, I don’t even know who I am, not really. I’m struggling with my internal vision of self,” then I’d recommend that you start with Inside Out, a course built around that inner transformation.